“Talking about death doesn’t make life darker - it often helps us live more fully.”

Opening Thoughts

For many people, thoughts about death can stir up a deep and unsettling fear. Whether it’s worry about our own mortality or anxiety about losing someone we love, death anxiety is something most of us experience at some point in life. Yet, we rarely talk about it openly.

What Is Death Anxiety?

Death anxiety, sometimes called thanatophobia, is the fear of death or dying. It can manifest in various ways. For some, it might be an ongoing worry about health or safety. For others, it’s a fear of loss, the unknown, or not having enough time to do the things that matter most.

This anxiety is a very human response to the mystery of life ending. Our brains are wired to keep us safe. So, when faced with something we can’t control or fully understand, anxiety can step in to protect us—even when there’s no immediate danger.

How Death Anxiety Can Affect Us

Death anxiety can quietly shape how we live. It might appear as:

• Health anxiety — noticing every ache and worrying it’s something serious

• Avoidance — pushing away conversations about death or loss

• Perfectionism or overplanning — trying to control what feels uncontrollable

• Existential worry — questioning the meaning or purpose of life

  
  

These feelings can surface more strongly after illness, bereavement, or during times of change. However, they can also simply be part of being human.

Why It’s Okay to Talk About It

Talking about death anxiety doesn’t make it worse. In fact, it often helps ease its power. When we bring these fears into the open, we can explore what lies underneath them. Perhaps it’s a fear of leaving loved ones behind, of pain, or of the unknown.

In counselling, we might gently explore:

• What death means to you personally

• Your beliefs or spiritual understandings about life and loss

• Ways to find comfort in uncertainty

• How to live more fully in the present, despite the fear

  
  

Finding Calm in the Face of the Unknown

While we can’t change the reality of death, we can change our relationship with it. Here are some ways that may help:

• Grounding in the present moment — noticing what’s here and now

• Connecting with meaning — reflecting on what gives your life purpose

• Mindfulness and acceptance — allowing fear to be present without letting it rule you

• Open conversations — sharing your thoughts with a trusted person or therapist

  
  

Over time, it’s possible to move from fear to acceptance and from anxiety to a deeper appreciation for life.

Embracing Life Fully

Life is a precious gift. Embracing it fully means acknowledging our fears while also celebrating the moments that bring us joy. It’s about finding balance. We can honour our feelings about death while also cherishing the beauty of life.

Consider what brings you joy. Is it a walk in nature, a warm cup of tea, or laughter shared with friends? These moments are vital. They remind us that life is happening now, and it’s okay to enjoy it.

A Final Thought

If you’ve been struggling with fears about death or dying, know that you’re not alone. It doesn’t mean something is wrong with you. These thoughts are part of being human, but you don’t have to face them on your own.

Counselling can offer a safe, gentle space to talk, explore, and find peace with what feels most frightening.

About My Approach

I offer a calm, compassionate space where you can explore death anxiety at your own pace. My approach is gentle, human, and grounded in understanding. Together, we can make sense of your fears without judgement or pressure.

We might explore what sits beneath your anxiety, how it connects with your experiences and beliefs, and what helps you feel more settled in the present. Over time, many clients find they can approach life—and the idea of death—with greater peace, clarity, and acceptance.

If this resonates with you, you’re warmly invited to get in touch to find out how we might work together. You can reach me through the contact page or learn more about my counselling approach at Sakaura Pathways.

The Importance of Seeking Support

Seeking support is a brave step. It shows a willingness to confront your fears and seek understanding. Many people find that talking about their feelings can provide relief. It can also lead to insights that help them navigate their emotions more effectively.

In our sessions, we can work together to identify coping strategies that resonate with you. Whether it’s journaling, mindfulness practices, or simply sharing your thoughts, there are many paths to finding peace.

Building a Support Network

It’s also essential to build a support network. Surround yourself with people who understand and care. This can include friends, family, or support groups. Sharing your experiences with others can lighten the emotional load.

Remember, you don’t have to go through this alone. There are people who want to support you. Reaching out can be a powerful way to feel connected and understood.

Conclusion

In conclusion, death anxiety is a common experience. It’s okay to feel this way. By talking about it, exploring it, and seeking support, we can learn to live more fully. Life is precious, and it’s worth embracing every moment.

If you’re ready to take that step, I’m here to help. Let’s journey together towards understanding and acceptance.